Reading for Parents
Making It as Step-Parent.
Bantam Books, 1980.
Bonkowski, Sara. Tots
Are Non-Divorceable. ACTA
Publications, 1998. (A
workbook for parents and their children). Birth to 5 years.
to Survive Without Feeling Frustrated, Left-Out or Wicked. Times
Ellen. Good Parenting Through Your Divorce. Marlowe &
New York, 2007.
Growing Up With Divorce:
Helping Your Child Avoid Immediate and Later Emotional Problems.
Free Press: A Division of
Simon & Schuster, Inc., New York, 1990.
Kelly, J.B. &
Emery, R.E. Children’s Adjustment Following Divorce:
Risk and Resilience Perspectives.
Family Relations, 52,(4), 352-362. 2003.
The Divorced Parent: Success
Strategies for Raising Your Children After Separation. Morrow,
Neuman, Gary M.
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way.
Random House, New York,
Putting Kids First: Walking
Away From a Marriage Without Walking Over the Kids. Family
Ricci, Isolina. Mom’s
House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child. Fireside of
Simon & Schuster, Inc., New York, 1997.
Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids.
Fireside of Simon & Schuster, Inc., New York, 2006.
(4-6 year olds)
Anderson. Simon &
Schuster Children’s Publishing, New York, 1995.
Taxi Taxi. Little, Brown. 1994. (Tina, a school-aged
daughter of divorced parents, looks forward to the Sunday afternoons
she spends with her Papi, driver of the most yellow taxi in New York
City. Each Sunday, Tina and Papi drive to the country to tend their
flower and vegetable garden and to enjoy quiet times in each other's
company. Spanish words and phrases are sprinkled throughout this
realistic picture of life in a bilingual, divorced family). Ages 4-8.
and Marc Laurence. Dinosaurs
Divorce. Little, Brown, 1986.
Double-Dip Feelings: Stories to Help Children
Understand Emotions. Magination
and Row, 1977. (Child visits father and stepmother each Saturday.
Christiansen, C.B. My
Mother’s House, My Father’s House. Atheneum/Macmillan, New
I Have Two Families. Abingdon, Nashville, 1981.
Hoffman, Mary. Boundless
Grace. Dial Books, 2000. (African American girl goes to Africa to
visit her father).
Lansky, Vicki. It’s
Not Your Fault, Koko Bear. Book
Peddlers, 1998. (Available in English and Spanish).
Franz. I Don’t Want
to Talk About It. Magination
Horn Book, Inc., 1991. (A
young child discusses his father’s new living situation, in which
the father and his gay roommate share eating, doing chores, playing,
loving and living).
Dennis. Always My Dad.
(A father whose visits are unpredictable but treasured reminds his
family that, no matter where he is, he’s always dad. Beautiful
illustrations of an African-American family).
School: (7-9 year olds)
Priscilla Twice. Greenwillow
Books, 1995. (A story of a girl who feels split in half.
It helps her understand in reassuring and even humorous ways
that there is more than one kind of family).
Dear Mr. Henshaw. Avon
Co., 1994. (An award winning book about a 10-year-old-boy who writes
letters to an unmet hero describing how he misses his father. Also available in Spanish).
The Top Secret Journal of Fiona Claire Jardin. Harcourt
Brace, San Diego, 1998.
Lash, Michele; Blakeslee Ives, Sally.
Changing Families: A
Guide for Kids and Grown-Ups. Waterfront Books, Vermont, 1988.
(Designed to be used by children and parents together).
Breuning, K., Garrity C., & Baris, M. Through the Eyes of
Children: Healing Stories
for Children of Divorce. The
Free Press, 1997.
Megan’s Two Houses.
Dove Kids, 1996. (Struggling with the many problems faced by
children of divorced families, eight-year-old Megan tries to adjust to
having two rooms, two pets, two sets of possessions, and two potential
Don’t Make Me Smile.
Bullseye, 1990. (An eleven-year-old boy feels his life will never be the same
again after his parents divorce; people try to cheer him up to no
avail. He goes for
professional counseling). Ages 8-12.
The Hatchet. Noguer
y Caralt Editores, S.A., 1996. (In Spanish: El Hacha.)
(After a plane crash, thirteen-year-old Brian spends fifty-four
days in the wilderness, learning to survive with only the aid of a
hatchet given him by his mother, and learning also to survive his
The Case of the Scary Divorce.
(A ten-year-old- boy meets the mysterious “Professor Jackson
Skye: Helping Investigator” who enlists his aid in solving eight
cases, each dealing with a problem he himself is experiencing during
his parents’ divorce). Ages 9-12.
Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore.
Annick Press, New York, 1985.
Families. Little, Brown, 1981. (This book illustrates
that there are all kinds of families, and “The main thing isn’t
where they live or how big they are…it’s how much they love each
other.” This book
normalizes differences between many types of families, and is
recommended for children who feel stigmatized by coming from a
divorced family. It is culturally sensitive).
Vigna, J. Saying
Goodbye to Daddy. Albert
Whitman, Illinois, 1991.
It’s Not the End of the World.
Dell, New York, 1986. (This is
the story of how a girl and her siblings react to their parents’
separation. Karen is
concerned about how the family will manage financially and who will
take care of them. She tries to get her parents to reconcile.
Her 6-year-old sister develops fears of the dark and of being
left alone. Her
14-year-old brother runs away for a few days.
Karen meets another girl whose parents are divorced, and learns
some new ways of coping from her).
The Divorce Express.
Paper Star, 1998. (A 14-year-old girl lives in a joint parenting situation.
Problems arise when her mom plans to marry.
After Phoebe’s parents divorce she has to travel every Sunday
to see her dad. Just when
she thinks she has a handle on it all, her mom makes a decision that
will change everything again). Ages 12-15.
Evens, Maria D.
This is Me and My Two Families.
Magination Press, 2000. (An
awareness scrapbook/journal for kids living in two separate families).
Annie and Steven. My
Parents Are Divorced, Too. Magination Press, 1997. (Three
stepsiblings in a blended family discuss their experiences, and those
of friends, with divorce and remarriage.
These young authors write about their own experiences frankly
and clearly, in a way that can be understood by young readers.
More than just a recounting of experiences it is a guidebook
for getting adjusted to a new life, and a means for opening new
avenues of communication at a difficult time in everyone’s life).
In the Wings. Dial, New York, 1982.
Breaking Up. Avon, New York, 1980.
How It Feels When Parents Divorce.
Alfred A. Knopf, New York, 1988. (A sensitive view of the
experiences of children, mostly adolescents, who were interviewed and
& Irene Willis. How
to Get It Together When Your Parents Are Coming Apart.
Willard Press, 1976. (A
comprehensive “coping” book that addresses those needing help with
the stresses and confusion of parental divorce; includes an excellent
section on legal aspects of divorce).
Solitary Blue, Athenium, 1983.
(A sophisticated sensitive story about a high school boy-Jeff-
who resolves his feelings about his custodial father and absent
mother. Jeff’s mother,
who deserted the family years before, re-enters his life and
challenges Jeff to overcome his pain about his family).
Group Interventions and Materials for High Conflict Parents:
After the Storm:
Resolving Post-Separation Conflict. Video, manuals.
Conflict – Los Angeles County Superior Court Family Court Services.
Kids’ First Group
for Parents in High Conflict – Freeport, ME.
Resources for Parents and Professionals:
Parenting 101, Frederica Conrad, Ph.D. (415-456-5484), Sheryl Hausman,
Ph.D. (415-924-8940). Email for Information at
Children in the Middle. www.divorce-education.com.
CODIP – www.childrensinstitute.net
Kids’ Turn. www.kidsturn.org.
Lemons2lemonade – www.lemons2lemonade.com
Software and Guides:
Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP): www.collaborativepractice.com
Practice California: (CP-CAL):
Cameron, Nancy J. Collaborative
Practice: Deeping the
Continuing Legal Education Society of British Columbia, 2004.
Naff, Monza. Must
We Say We Did Not Love? The
Need For Divorce Rituals in Our Time.
Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing, Inc., 2008.
Tesler, Pauline H.,
and Thompson, Peggy. Collaborative Divorce, Harper Collins, New